Who's pushing our kids around at school?

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There is a serious epidemic infecting our school age children and it’s called bullying.    This act of the stronger or more powerful intimidating the weaker has been increasing in severity and attention.  This literature will take a look at how bad the situation is and how we respond to it.   It is necessary to take a look at how the problem is dealt with and what it is doing to our youth today.   We will evaluate if the current procedures in place are effective and if there is any way to improve the way we handle it.

What is bullying exactly?  The act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something blustery: noisily domineering; tending to browbeat others. (Princeton, 2010) Bullying is a form of abuse. It comprises repeated acts over time that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power with the more powerful individual or group abusing those who are less powerful. The power imbalance may be social power and/or physical power. (Wikipedia, 2010).

In recent surveys, 49% of public school principals have reported that bullying, name-calling, and harassment are extremely serious problems in their schools.  75% of junior high schools or middle schools report that bullying is a serious problem compared to only 43% in elementary and 45% in senior high schools.  It can be questioned whether or not the occurrence of bullying is actually increasing or if more victims are actually speaking up because of the increased support and awareness efforts.

Bullies are generally aggressive, loud and out-spoken.  They are commonly larger in size and use physical appearance as a threat.  They tend to brow-beat and belittle their victims verbally.  Usually a bully will pick on their victim in a large group or public atmosphere so as to gain attention.  They have a desire to put on a show for an audience, always trying to portray themselves as superior to their victims.

Research has proven that a person who is a bully is often trying to over-compensate for low self-esteem and feelings of inadequacy.  They desire to be socially accepted and dominant.  This behavior can start in the home especially if the bully is raised in an intimidating or aggressive atmosphere.  If the bully is mean at school, quite commonly they will be mean to their siblings at home.  On the other hand, if a child is raised in an environment where they see parents act insecure and show low self-esteem, then they are likely to be a victim.  (Bullying, 2010)

Most parents today do not know how to successfully handle it when their children tell them they are being bullied at school.  Other parents are completely unaware it is even happening.   Parents have a tendency to get upset and angry when they feel like their child is being taunted and mistreated.  Some common responses to this are getting mad at their own child for not sticking up for themselves. Many times the parent feels embarrassed or inadequate as if it is their own fault for not raising their child right, or not instilling enough self confidence in them.  Other times parents want to tell their kids to fight back or take a stand.  This is a very bad idea as it can lead to an escalation of the problem that could have serious repercussions.  (Lyness, 2010) Another reaction is for the parent to simply ignore it and hope it goes away or they hope the school will handle it. 

Most schools are becoming more aware of the bullying problem and recognize its increase in occurrence and need to be dealt with.  Ideally, if bullying is happening at school the victim should immediately talk with an adult there they trust.  This could be their teacher, counselor or school principal.  The school official should then discuss with the victim that it’s not their fault and give them praise for having courage to talk about it.  The bully should be given support as well, trying to focus on the reason why they did it.  Sometimes it is necessary to have group interventions and support meetings with the parties all together and sometimes individually.  If the occurrence does not stop, then appropriate measures need to be taken such as detention, not being able to attend school functions, expulsion or even calling the local authorities.  Some states actually have laws against bullying and the parents could face charges.

            It can be hard for the victim of bullying to go to those around them for help because they fear they will be judged or seen as inadequate.  Unfortunately many people in today’s society think of a victim of bullying as a weakling or  a wimp.  Other children and at times even adults make fun of and laugh at these abused children in these situations.  Awareness on the situation is growing though and people are recognizing it is a more serious problem to be dealt with.

            It is very important to become more aware of bullying among our children.  Looking at the mistreatment of these children can help us learn why it’s happening and how to help our children deal with it and prevent it.  The current processes for dealing with the behavior are to either tell an adult or hide it.  

            The main weapon we have against this abuse is education. Educating our parents, teachers and children on how to deal with it is necessary.  Offering support to the victims and the bullies is so important.  Show me a bully and I will show you someone who needs some type of counseling or support.  The effect this behavior can have on both parties is serious and can affect them for the rest of their lives.  The victim of bullying can get very nervous, withdrawn, lose interest in things that they normally enjoyed doing. They can go into a state of depression.  Children who are victims lose weight, score poorly in school, get mood swings and can often become violent themselves.  They can grow up feeling insecure and inadequate and never realizing their full potential because of a lack of self-esteem.

            There are many ways we can learn more about this issue.  We can get more detailed in our research, talk to parents and teachers, seek counseling from professionals.  We can join social networks and groups focusing on bullying.  There is extensive literature and text on the internet.  It is important to help our children as a community to deal with this problem so they can go on to achieve the greatest hopes and potential.

“Successfully dealing with bullying involves building a genuine community within the

school. Everyone accepts they have the right to be free from harassment and that they

have the responsibility to support their weaker and more vulnerable peers.” (Cleary)

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The debate over Physician Assisted Suicide

There is an unlimited supply of controversy and opinions on whether or not it is legal, moral or right to have a physician assist the terminally ill and suffering with their end of life by use of euthanasia.  There are so many different religious beliefs and lines that can be crossed in the ethics concerning the medical field, as well as legal implications too.  It seems almost impossible to get everybody to agree on anything.  This issue should be seen as a matter of personal choice with certain restrictions in place to prevent doctor privilege abuse and let the terminally ill and long suffering choose their own ending.

            What exactly is euthanasia?  As per the definition in Miriam Webster dictionary euthanasia is: the act or practice of killing or permitting the death of hopelessly sick or injured individuals (as persons or domestic animals) in a relatively painless way for reasons of mercy. 

Physician assisted euthanasia or suicide is the act of a physician helping a patient follows through with the ending of their own life.

            There are many alternatives to physician assisted suicide.  For one, the patient could simply continue to exist in the current situation with no change. Another option would be for a patient to try to end their own life unassisted and hope the technique they choose does not cause undue pain or injury to others or not succeed and end up in a worse than before situation.  Patients can ask of their friends and family to assist with over medicating to smothering with a pillow or plastic bag etc. 

            Why would someone choose to end their own life?  There are too many reasons and issues that could be discussed by this question.  In this literary document the issue at hand is euthanasia in the circumstance or situation that the patient is terminally ill and or long suffering with pain that is unable to be controlled or relieved. So why would someone choose to do this to themselves? Perhaps the goal is to end the long term suffering and they just can’t handle the pain anymore.  If someone has no quality of life, basically being kept alive by machine and or medication and they are unable to participate in any way in society then questions arise such as: What quality of life is this?  Another reason is to end the burden it is placing on their family to have to take care of them.  A terminally ill patient may think that if they are unable to be treated or reverse their condition, then why bother?  A point could be made that the family’ time and money, as well as the physician’s time and money, may be better utilized in helping people who have a chance to get better. (Euthanasia 2011)

            All human being have certain human rights and freedoms. We all have the right to be alive and make our own decisions. We have the right to provide for ourselves and protect ourselves. Many people feel that euthanasia is a sin or immoral. Doctors all take the Hippocratic Oath, to help their patients.  Once a person decides to go through with euthanasia, they should be able to have the help of a physician so it can be controlled and monitored with no complication and made to be as pain free as possible. Many states feel euthanasia is a form of murder regardless of the issues or reasons behind it. (Death 2011)

            There are comparably pros and cons to this decision.  The positive aspects of it are the fact that it gives the person making the decision control in a terrible situation.  It gives them freedom to end their own suffering and not be a burden.  It also takes the responsibility of life support decisions off of the family.  The patient who knows they can make this decision freely may have more enjoyable time in their last days because the issue has been decided and planned giving a certain peace of mind.  Knowing when it is going to happen can also give the family time to get affairs in order say goodbyes.

            Some negative aspects to making this decision are the fact that doctors could in time abuse this power without proper regulation.  The families of the patient could disagree and pursue legal action.  Religious groups could rise up and cause potentially harmful protests.  The very people that say they are against this because of religious beliefs sometimes cause more harm than if the patient could have just fulfilled their own wishes. (Zimmerman)

            Regardless of a person’s religious, legal or medical background, choosing to end their own life because of long suffering pain or a fatal disease or condition, can be a very controversial and emotional decision.  Since the beginning of time, man has been on a never ending quest searching for answers to truth of life and creation.  There are immeasurable theories and opinions to this question.  In such a diverse culture, people should be allowed to make this personal decision for themselves with the assistance of their physician, with the provision all other methods or medications and therapies have been exhausted and there is no chance for cure or improvement in quality of life.

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